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I am having a problem with my friend. I found out some news recently about something important in my life. My friends knew what I aspired to attain but I did not tell them that I received favorable results, but rather lied and said that I did not know at all. I did not reveal the real news even to a very close friend, but also lied to her. The truth was finally revealed and I apologized to everyone about lying and not telling them sooner. However, I do not feel right because I feel like it is my news and that I can share whenever I am ready, but I feel like they do not understand that and they are still upset with me. I know I sinned by lying, but I did not know what to do in this situation. I was not ready to tell anyone at first and I wanted to keep it to myself. I feel very bad about it, but I wish my friend did not ask and pressure me so many times and being intrusive. Can you please advise me on what I can I do in a situation when someone asks me a personal question and I do not want to answer that question? I do not want to lie, but I might also not want to give out that information. What should I do?

The Lord Jesus Christ taught us: "But let your ‘Yes' be ‘Yes,' and your ‘No,' ‘No.' For whatever is more than these is from the evil one" (Matthew 5:37). Ananias and Sapphira (Acts 5:1-11) are examples of God being disappointed when people lie. Lying is unacceptable. Your friends probably felt betrayed because they shared their news, but you lied about your news. Since this information would have been revealed at some point, you could have said to all your friends that you did receive your results, but need time to think and pray about it before revealing it to everyone. They may have been more understanding and accepting to that approach, and you would not have had to resort to lying to protect your news. There is no reason that anyone has to reveal every detail of his or life to everyone. Let your words be few, but honest and sincere. A close circle of friends develop a manner of behavior. You can set the tone in a loving, honest, and Christian manner for the future. When you do not pry in the business of others, they will likely not pry into yours. Discuss the matter further with your confession father and ask for absolution and guidance.
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